In most of the goal-setting literature I’ve read, way back to reading Tony Robbins in my twenties you learn that goals need to be present tense, in the first person and written in the positive.
In your own life how often when talking about your goals do you talk about what you don’t want rather than what you do want?
So you might say ‘I want to lose weight’. What if you instead said ‘I am at my ideal weight as I take beautiful care of myself’?
Say you have a coaching business and you are concentrating on all the clients that you don’t have rather than the ones that you are drawing to you in the day-to-day work you are doing. You could say to yourself ‘I am attracting my ideal clients to me now.’
In life, where you concentrate on what you don’t want it can lead to you getting more of the same. The mind might hear things literally so when you are making goals try making them about what you want rather than what you don’t.