You wish you were more confident. You hold your self back and tie yourself in knots trying to figure out what you want in your life. There are just so many choices and you’re worried you might take the wrong one.
You know that you want to do well at school or at university and you watch Youtubers who are making a success of it but you doubt your own ability to make the most of your studies and opportunities.
There are important people in your life and you don’t want to let them down, more than anything you don’t want to let yourself down.
Sometimes you wonder why other people seem to have it all together and think that things must come more easily to them.
You see people taking chances and taking opportunities and having some success and there’s a tiny part of you that knows you could have success too and that you are just as talented, but you rarely listen to that part of you.
Maybe there is a big event in your life that you should be looking forward to, but you’re not because you know that you will be the centre of attention and that feels like an uncomfortable place to be.
You’re being held up by the way you think about yourself, the way you think about what’s possible for you. Your lack of confidence leads to worry and self-doubt and comparison. You think to yourself that you are not enough and so you play it safe.
You are hiding your greatness because you fear that you may fail.
You are made of magic. It’s time to stop hiding that.
If you were able to be more confident, what would that enable you to do:
choose the options you REALLY want to chose?
go from the career that would light you up?
play the lead?
stand for what you believe in?
write the novel?
say no when your heart tells you to say no?
make new friends?
get the sleep that will help you to get the grades you hope for?
make a speech?
do what you want to do rather than what you think other people want you to do just to keep them happy?
apply for the funding?
enjoy your studies as you work to achieve the results you want?
make a study plan and stick to it?
make a new life in your new situation?
settle into a new life in a new place of study?
enjoy your studies more?
stop stalling with simple self-care like doing your washing up and laundry?
get your work handed in on time?
figure out want you want your next steps to be?
feel more confident in exams, assessments or interviews?
find a better balance between study and time with friends?
Please email me at email@example.com if you are interested in working with me.
I trained with and was certified as a life coach by Dr Martha Beck, a best-selling and New York Times featured author. In addition, I am trained and experienced as a career coach.
Dr Martha Beck taught me about the cycle of change. There are four stages in this and the analogy for it is that of a caterpillar changing into a butterfly. When the caterpillar changes into the butterfly it doesn’t go straight to being a butterfly. In the cocoon, there is a green gloop stage. (yes, sounds pretty, doesn’t it?!)
It’s a liminal period, where the caterpillar isn’t a caterpillar any more and it isn’t yet a butterfly. I help clients to become more confident and self-assured so that they can get through their green gloop stage more easily and become the butterflies that they are meant to be.
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Coaching is not a substitute for therapy or medical supervision so if you are not coping with your day to day please get the help that you need.
‘Promise me you’ll always remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.’ A. A. Milne