I’m Deborah Chalk.
I’m a recovering perfectionist who helps people who are perfectionist, put themselves under loads of pressure and try harder and harder at EVERYTHING to find a whole new way of doing things.
That different way of doing things is grounded in mind body connection. From mind body connection intuition starts to speak up and that’s where I’ve found personally that the magic starts to happen.
Does this sound like you?
You don’t call yourself a perfectionist because you don’t think you’re perfect enough to be one.
You’re in a consistent pattern of trying harder, working longer and doing ALL THE THINGS.
You live in your head and feel disconnected from your body and wish that you were able to feel that you were connected to your body.
No amount of yoga or meditation is making the difference.
It would be amazing to spend more of the time feeling calm and happy and you have an inkling that this would open the door to your creativity up.
You’d like to feel more able to bounce back from challenges and set-backs.
You find it difficult to deal with your emotions and feel you would benefit from knowing what to do when uncomfortable emotions come up.
Your ready to deal with your old limiting beliefs and the stories that are holding you back so you can begin to see things differently.
You’d love to stop putting loads of pressure on yourself to be perfect and would love to be a whole lot kinder to yourself.
You’re tired of it feeling like you have to push so hard all the time to make things happen. Welcoming more of a sense of ease into your life would feel amazing.
You’re fed up following formulas and you’d rather find a way to tap into your own wisdom and follow that instead.
You want to stop doubting yourself.
You’d love to be able to get into the ‘flow’ thing that you’ve heard about in the many self-help books that you have on your night table so you can show up fully and brilliantly for the day ahead.
You’re interested in law of attraction, spirituality and energy work.
You want to learn new ways of connecting with your body, your emotions and tapping into your inner wisdom.
Stuff I’ve done that helps me help you.
Certified Wayfinder Life Coach
Endorsed Mind Body Magic Coach
Manifestation and Law of Attraction- Masters Member of Good Vibe University
Certified Organisational Specialist
Career coach for a top Washington based company.
Business Success coach for top US based coaching company.
Business trainings including Marie Forleo’s B School, Jenny Shih’s Making it Work online and Linda Bucher’s Confident Coach program.
I’ve been reading self-help and coaching books since I was 13. I love to learn and I was really shy, awkward and was bullied at school. I felt like I needed all the help that I could get.
I was very hard on myself and highly responsible. The ‘be a good girl’ thing wasn’t working for me. I was doing what other people wanted for me rather than what I wanted.
I landed up in a job in a Merchant Bank in London and I realised that there was no way I wanted to live my working life there and then retire one day with a carriage clock.
The Navy and teaching were the other ‘responsible’ career choices that I made.
I was unprepared for abseiling down cliffs and nights on Dartmoor in the Navy and I told myself it was beyond my capabilities, so I left.
I was maxed out in my teaching jobs and critical of myself as a teacher even though others thought highly of my ability.
There didn’t seem to be any time to do creative things outside of my teaching responsibilities. I started to take piano lessons while I was teaching in a desperate attempt to reclaim my creativity.
I got married and my husband’s job meant we moved ten times to new parts of England. I would just get settled somewhere and we would move again. All the moving made it really difficult to feel sense of home.
I moved from teaching job to teaching job and each time I felt like I was starting over as each school needed new planning, new ways of doing things and I needed to earn the respect of the parents and pupils all over again.
On one of the moves we got a puppy, a beautiful flat-coated retriever, and I made the decision not to go to the school that had invited me to talk about a term of supply. I chose instead to stay home with the puppy and somehow figure out what I was going to do with the rest of my life.
I was on my path and started to follow my intuition to my right life, or what Dr Martha Beck calls ‘wayfinding.’
I worked through Julia Cameron’s book ‘The Artist’s Way’ and started to listen to what it was that I wanted in my life.
This was something I’d never done before. I remembered that old part of me, the part of my that wanted to create, the part of me that identified with Jo in ‘Little Women’ and wanted to have a trunk in the attic with my creative work in it.
I had played the lead in two musicals, one aged 17 and one in my early thirties, but then stopped singing as I didn’t believe in my creativity or talent. I stopped music being a part of my life even though it lights me up. I didn’t even sing round the house anymore.
I slowly began to reclaim my creativity. I took courses in floristry and photography and did a second degree in Art History and Creative Writing. I took more piano lessons. I became a mother which started another journey of finding myself in that new and special identity.
I worked with a coach and she helped me to recognise that I had been reading coaching books all along and was passionate about coaching and self-development. I hadn’t been allowing myself to train as a coach as I thought the training was too expensive and coaching sounded kind of ‘flaky’.
It wasn’t one of those ‘responsible jobs’ that the good girl part of me thought I had to have.
I worked on all of those limiting beliefs and allowed myself to become a coach.
In 2013, I took Martha Beck’s Wayfinder Life Coach training. I was following my heart’s path.
I built a business where I can work from home and have balance and creativity in my life. I can go to sports matches at school when I plan for them and am enjoying taking singing lessons. I took grade 5 singing last summer and I’m now working towards Grade 5 music theory and Grade 6 practical.
I look after myself with good nutrition, exercise, meditation, time in nature and sleep. I use the Law of Attraction as I create my way of living and being. I continue to work with my own coaches and read self-help books to continue to grow and share what I’ve learnt with my clients.
I no longer have the Sunday night dread that I used to feel about work and instead, I feel on a much more even keel. When I have a wobble I have tools and skills to help me to feel regulated again.
I have work that I enjoy, more self-compassion and self-care. I’m still a work in progress, but we all are and always will be.
My coaching experience has involved me working to coach and mentor creatives, writers, editors, lawyers, other coaches and holistic entrepreneurs, university students, people changing careers and people building a business foundation.
I worked as a career coach for Alison Cardy’s Career Coaching Team (Washington based) and as a Business Mindset Coach in Carolin Soldo’s ‘Brand Your Passions’ Programme. This year I was a Copy Coach Assistant on Jenny Shih’s program ‘Making it Work Online.’
The latest development in my journey as a coach is taking Abigail Morgan’s ‘Mind Body Magic’ coach training. This has opened up many new ways that I am able to help my clients. I’m now an Endorsed Mind Body Magic Coach as well as being a Certified Wayfinder Life Coach.
I’ve been a copywriter for top coaches and have written copy for a sales funnel creator and a top coaching school.
I love the freedom and flexibility I have in my life now. I love that I am kinder to myself and that I am making time to look after myself and to be creative.
Happiness isn’t about being perfect. I learn that over and over in a myriad of ways. Allowing imperfection opens the door to possibility.
Ready to talk? email me at email@example.com