Find a sense of home in your life
You’re a responsible person filling your day with lots of responsibilities. Other people can rely on you to get things done. Other people think you have it all together, and yet something’s missing.
You sometimes feel that you’re just going through the motions.
You know that there’s more to you than you’ve allowed yourself to explore.
It’s as though you’re a grown up who’s not quite figured out who they want to be ‘when they grown up.’
You’d like to feel more like YOU again, even if you don’t know what exactly that looks like yet.
You’d love to feel more at home in your own life.
Feeling more at home in your own life would mean you would love your home more, feel more connected with your body and be able to enjoy things you are passionate about. You’d feel more settled and that you are able to be yourself and to use your voice more confidently.
Hi, I’m Deborah Chalk,
I’m a life coach for people who want to feel more at home in their own life. They want to feel they can use their creativity, love their home more, do work that’s a good fit, feel at home in their body and have confidence to use their voice.
The key themes of my coaching work with clients are:
- Creative confidence and permission
- Feeling at home in your life.
- Feeling at home with your voice.
- Feeling at home in your body.
- Building a warmer and more loving relationship with your home even when it isn’t your dream home.
- Feeling that you’re enough even when you’re not perfect.
- Identifying and overcoming beliefs that limit you.
- Life purpose
- Self-compassion vs self-pressuring
- Writing and creative expression
- Being an introvert in an extrovert world
- Time management/procrastination/habits/focus
- Law of attraction
- Money beliefs
- Building your business foundation / career change
- Creative inspiration / inner guidance
- Meditation and mindfulness
I’ve been reading self-help and coaching books since I was 13. I love to learn and I was really shy, awkward and was bullied at school. I felt like I needed all the help that I could get.
I was very hard on myself and highly responsible. The ‘be a good girl’ thing wasn’t working for me. I was doing what other people wanted for me rather than what I wanted.
I landed up in a job in a Merchant Bank in London and I realised that there was no way I wanted to live my working life there and then retire one day with a carriage clock.
The Navy and teaching were the other ‘responsible’ career choices that I made.
I was unprepared for abseiling down cliffs and nights on Dartmoor in the Navy and I told myself it was beyond my capabilities, so I left.
I was maxed out in my teaching jobs and critical of myself as a teacher even though others thought highly of my ability.
There didn’t seem to be any time to do creative things outside of my teaching responsibilities. I started to take piano lessons while I was teaching in a desperate attempt to reclaim my creativity.
I got married and my husband’s job meant we moved ten times to new parts of England. I would just get settled somewhere and we would move again. All the moving made it really difficult to feel sense of home.
I moved from teaching job to teaching job and each time I felt like I was starting over as each school needed new planning, new ways of doing things and I needed to earn the respect of the parents and pupils all over again.
On one of the moves we got a puppy, a beautiful flat-coated retriever, and I made the decision not to go to the school that had invited me to talk about a term of supply. I chose instead to stay home with the puppy and somehow figure out what I was going to do with the rest of my life.
I was on my path to finding a sense of home in my life.
I worked through Julia Cameron’s book ‘The Artist’s Way’ and started to listen to what it was that I wanted in my life.
This was something I’d never done before. I remembered that old part of me, the part of my that wanted to create, the part of me that identified with Jo in ‘Little Women’ and wanted to have a trunk in the attic with my creative work in it.
I had played the lead in two musicals, one aged 17 and one in my early thirties, but then stopped singing as I didn’t believe in my creativity or talent. I stopped music being a part of my life even though it lights me up. I didn’t even sing round the house anymore.
I slowly began to reclaim my creativity. I took courses in floristry and photography and did a second degree in Art History and Creative Writing. I took more piano lessons. I became a mother which started another journey of finding myself in that new and special identity.
I worked with a coach and she helped me to recognise that I had been reading coaching books all along and was passionate about coaching and self-development. I hadn’t been allowing myself to train as a coach as I thought the training was too expensive and coaching sounded kind of ‘flaky’.
It wasn’t one of those ‘responsible jobs’ that the good girl part of me thought I had to have.
In 2013, I took Martha Beck’s Wayfinder Life Coach training. I allowed myself to do something my heart had been calling me to.
I built a business where I can work from home and have balance and creativity in my life. I can go to sports matches at school when I plan for them and am enjoying taking singing lessons. I took grade 5 singing last summer and I’m now working on Grade 5 music theory and Grade 6 practical.
I look after myself with good nutrition, exercise, meditation, time in nature and sleep. I use the Law of Attraction as I create my way of living and being. I continue to work with my own coaches and read self-help books to continue to grow and share what I’ve learnt with my clients.
I no longer have the Sunday night dread that I used to feel about work and instead, I feel on a much more even keel.
I have work that I enjoy, more self-compassion and self-care. I’m still a work in progress, but we all are and always will be.
My coaching experience has involved me working to coach and mentor other coaches and holistic entrepreneurs, mothers, teens and university students, people changing careers and business coaching.
I worked as a career coach for Alison Cardy’s Career Coaching Team (Washington based) and as a Business Mindset Coach in Carolin Soldo’s ‘Brand Your Passions’ Programme. This year I was a Copy Coach Assistant on Jenny Shih’s program ‘Making it Work Online.’
I’ve been a copywriter for top coaches and have written copy for a sales funnel creator and a top coaching school.
I love the freedom and flexibility I have in my life now. I love that I am kinder to myself and that I am making time to look after myself and to be creative. I feel like I am finding a sense of home in my life.
If you wish you could have more of a sense of home in your life stay in touch via this site or you can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org to set up a call to chat about the possibility of working together.