Hi, I’m Deborah Chalk
I’m a life coach, writing coach and copywriter for creative people who are hard on themselves and lack confidence. They know being creative helps them feel alive and brings them towards their goal of having work they love and a balanced happier life, but they procrastinate, put others first, constantly compare themselves to others and hide. I help them build their confidence, clarify and communicate what they do and take action towards their creative dreams.
The key themes of my coaching and copywriting work with clients are:
- Creative confidence
- Success, that’s fulfilling and sustainable
- Writing and copywriting
I’ve been reading self-help and coaching books since I was 13. I love to learn and I was really shy, awkward and was bullied at school. I felt like I needed all the help that I could get.
I was very hard on myself and highly responsible. The ‘be a good girl’ thing wasn’t working for me. I was doing what other people wanted for me rather than what I wanted.
I landed up in a job in a Merchant Bank in London and I realised that there was no way I wanted to live my working life there and then retire one day with a carriage clock.
The Navy and teaching were the other ‘responsible’ career choices that I made and neither of them felt right for me. I was unprepared for abseiling down cliffs and nights on Dartmoor in the Navy and I told myself it was beyond my capabilities, so I left.
I was tired and stressed in my teaching job. Even though I was doing a great job as a teacher, I could never accept that. I didn’t allow myself to feel good about my work. I felt that I was failing, even though I wasn’t.
I got married and my husband’s job meant we moved ten times to new parts of England. I would just get settled somewhere and we would move again.
I moved from teaching job to teaching job and each time I felt like I was starting over as each school needed new planning, new ways of doing things and I needed to earn the respect of the parents and pupils all over again.
I worked through Julia Cameron’s book ‘The Artist’s Way’ and started to listen to what it was that I wanted in my life. This was something I’d never done before.
I took courses in floristry and photography and did a second degree in Art History and Creative Writing. I took piano lessons. I was allowing myself to be the creative person I had been all along, but I still couldn’t figure out what to do with my life.
I worked with a coach and she helped me to recognise that I had been reading coaching books all along and was passionate about coaching and self-development. I hadn’t been allowing myself to train as a coach as I thought the training was too expensive and coaching sounded kind of ‘flaky’.
It wasn’t one of those ‘responsible jobs’ that the good girl part of me thought I had to have.
I became a mother at 36. I’d been married to my husband for ten years at that point but had never felt settled enough to have a child. I was always more focused on figuring out what to be, ‘when I grow up’ – even though I was already grown up!
Eventually, I built the emotional stability and confidence to do my coach training. In 2013, I took Martha Beck’s Wayfinder Life Coach training. I allowed myself to do something my heart had been calling me to.
I built a business where I can work from home and have balance and creativity in my life. I can go to sports matches at school when I plan for them and am enjoying taking singing lessons. I look after myself with good nutrition, exercise, meditation, time in nature and sleep.
I generally feel good when I wake up in the morning. I no longer have the Sunday night dread that I used to feel about work and instead, I feel on a much more even keel.
I have work that I enjoy, more self-compassion and self-care.
My coaching experience has involved me working to coach and mentor other coaches, to coach mothers who work and I’ve also worked as part of two coaching teams.
I worked as a career coach for Alison Cardy’s Career Coaching Team (Washington based) and as a Business Mindset Coach in Carolin Soldo’s ‘Brand Your Passions’ Programme.
I’ve been a copywriting for top coaches and a sales funnel creator and offer copy coaching, copywriting and content creation services in addition to coaching.
I love the freedom and flexibility I have in my life now. I love that I am kinder to myself and that I am making time to look after myself and to be creative.
I would love to hear from you about your creative dreams!
You can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org to set up a call to chat about the possibility of working together.