Learning inner kindness


Entrepreneur, fempreneur, business woman, limited company… Paints a kind of picture doesn’t it? Nose hard to the grindstone/keyboard sending out eager social media signals like a transmitter connecting over the airwaves in morse code, only to be deciphered by the niche or tribe who ‘get it.’

This woman never works in her yoga pants and she is able to never get distracted by cute animals or Matthew Goode or Tom Hiddleston’s latest movie / TV ventures online. She has never watched a Tanya Burr / Lisa Eldridge / Zoella YouTube video (her life is poorer for this).

She is single-minded and completely able to follow step but step plans to greatness and six figures. She hasn’t needed to invest in business help, as she got all she needed from a few opt-in PDFs that she cannily downloaded.

Her children are never off sick from school.

They never have school holidays.

She never needs to make dinner or empty the dishwasher.

She has time to yoga/journal/alignchakras/writegratitudes/useintuitivepowers/visualiseandmagnitise all before her family gets up and makes their own sugar-free breakfast.

Sometimes I imagine that if I try hard enough, I can be this woman.

And then I realise that I am not.

Take today for example.

I wake up early and start on my chakra meditation. Oh hello base chakra one, there you are. Let me breathe into you and fill you with love and white light….(this is true, not made up)

Call from the other bedroom – ‘Mummy can I have a drink of miiiiillllllkkkkkk please?’

Now, since last night she had a high temperature and was covered in hives I thought ‘yup gonna go and get that milk.’ I tell myself that I’ll go to bed early and meditate then to ‘make up’ but I know I probably won’t really, as my willpower reserves go down at night.

Do yours?

Annoying isn’t it?

Then my day was filled with reading two ‘Mango and Bangbam’ books (I really enjoyed them) from cover to cover, reading half of the ’26 Storey Tree-House’ (the bit with the pirate who gets his old head from the belly of a fish was too gory for me) and setting up painting and colouring. This was punctuated with temperature checks, medicine doses and a ‘don’t worry Mrs Chalk,’ call with the doctor.

So here I am at the end of the day and after having cooked dinner. Today didn’t achieve anything for my business really, and I could get all hung up about that or I could just be grateful.

Grateful that I have my child.

Grateful that I can look after her.

Grateful that I even have a business to step away from.

Grateful that I had a dinner to cook.

Grateful that my child loves stories and books as much as I do and that we are both bookie monsters together.

Grateful for the connection and love that this day brought.

Grateful that my lovely husband is home and I have the time to write this to you now.

Thankful that I’m not as hard on myself as I used to be and I realise that as well as having a business, I get to have a life.

So what are your ideas of what you ‘should’ be doing and achieving in your life?

Where do you find yourself not meeting those ideals?

What could be absolutely perfect about the fact that you don’t meet them?

If you’d like help with inner kindness and stepping into your possibilities in life email me at deborah@deborahchalk.com and we can set up a free 30 minute call to see if we are a good match for coaching and how I can help you as your coach.