Be the kind of parent you want to be without running on empty.
You can learn to use mindbody and wayfinder life coach tools to feel a whole lots better in your life as a parent.
You REALLY wanted to do a great job of being a parent. If they’d been handing out gold stars in your antenatal classes you would’ve had a constellation of them.
You followed the ‘What to Expect’ books with an academic interest. You love to learn and grow and this was your new super important thing to learn about. You researched eco-diaper/nappy options and low-VOC paints the way you used to use Trip Advisor for best venues for an elegant afternoon tea.
Then you became a parent and now things are proving to be a whole lot harder than you thought they’d be. You LOVE being a mom and you’re super grateful that you are, but sometimes it’s just really, really hard. You worry that you are no longer yourself and you’ve become more like a snack vending machine. It often feels like being in a race with no pause for breath or water stops and no finish line in sight or even round the corner.
Hi, I’m Deborah Chalk and I’m a mindbody coach who helps parents be the kind of parent they want to be without running on empty.
I’ve been reading self-help and coaching books since I was 13. I love to learn and I was really shy, awkward and was bullied at school. I felt like I needed all the help that I could get.
I was very hard on myself and highly responsible. The ‘be a good girl’ thing wasn’t working for me.
My first job out of uni was in a Merchant Bank in London and I realised that there was no way I wanted to live my working life there and then retire one day with a carriage clock.
The Navy and teaching were the other ‘responsible’ career choices that I made. The Navy wasn’t a good fit for me and in teaching jobs I felt maxed out and critical of myself even though others thought highly of my ability.
There didn’t seem to be any time to do creative things outside of my teaching responsibilities. In a desperate attempt to reclaim my creativity I began piano lessons.
I got married and my husband’s job meant we moved ten times to new parts of England. Each time we were somewhere we would move again. All the moving made it really difficult to feel sense of home.
Frequent moves from teaching job to teaching job meant each time I felt like I was starting over. Each school needed new planning, new ways of doing things and I needed to earn the respect of the parents and pupils all over again.
On one of the moves we got a puppy, a beautiful flat-coated retriever, and I made the decision not to go to the school that had invited me to talk about a term of supply. I chose instead to stay home with the puppy and somehow figure out what I was going to do with the rest of my life.
Then I was on my path and started to follow my intuition to my right life, or what Dr Martha Beck calls ‘wayfinding.’
I worked through Julia Cameron’s book ‘The Artist’s Way’ and started to listen to what it was that I wanted in my life. I started writing again.
I remembered that old part of me, the part of my that wanted to create, the part of me that identified with Jo in ‘Little Women’ and wanted to have a trunk in the attic with my writing in it.
I had played the lead in two musicals, one aged 17 and one in my early thirties, but then stopped singing as I didn’t believe in my creativity or talent. I stopped music being a part of my life even though it lights me up. I didn’t even sing round the house anymore.
I slowly began to reclaim my creativity. I took courses in floristry and photography and did a second degree in Art History and Creative Writing. I took more piano lessons.
Learning to flourish as a sensitive creative
As creativity started to flourish more I became a mother which started another journey of finding myself in that new and special identity.
There are been so much learning for me about self-kindness, dealing with my inner critic and allowing my creative self to come through. Things need to have much more flexibility and this is something that I learn at deeper and deeper levels. The mindbody connection tools that I learnt in my Mindbody magic coach training have been such a huge help in this.
I needed to figure out a way of living and working that would work for me as a a sensitive creative person who was parenting with all her heart.
I worked with a coach and she helped me to recognise that I had been reading coaching books all along and was passionate about coaching and self-development. I hadn’t been allowing myself to train as a coach as I thought the training was too expensive and coaching sounded kind of ‘flaky’.
It wasn’t one of those ‘responsible jobs’ that the good girl part of me thought I had to have.
I worked on all of those limiting beliefs and allowed myself to become a coach.
Becoming a coach
In 2013, I took Martha Beck’s Wayfinder Life Coach training. I was following my heart’s path.
I built a business where I can work from home and have balance and creativity in my life. I can go to sports matches at school when I plan for them and am enjoying taking singing lessons.
I look after myself with good nutrition, exercise, meditation, time in nature and sleep. I use the Law of Attraction as I create my way of living and being. I continue to work with my own coaches and read self-help books to continue to grow and share what I’ve learnt with my clients and use the skills, tools and ways of being that I’ve learnt to be more grounded in my everyday life.
I no longer have the Sunday night dread that I used to feel about work and instead, I feel on a much more even keel. When I have a wobble I have tools and skills to help me to feel regulated again.
I have work that I enjoy, more self-compassion and self-care. I’m still a work in progress, but we all are and always will be. I’m learning day by day to be creative, calm, grounded and inspired person and parent that I want to be more of the time and you can too.
My coaching experience has involved me working to coach and mentor parents, creatives, writers, editors, lawyers, other coaches and holistic entrepreneurs, university students, people changing careers and people building a business foundation.
I worked as a career coach for Alison Cardy’s Career Coaching Team (Washington based) and as a Business Mindset Coach in Carolin Soldo’s ‘Brand Your Passions’ Programme. I was a Copy Coach Assistant on Jenny Shih’s program ‘Making it Work Online.’
The latest development in my journey as a coach is taking Abigail Morgan’s ‘Mindbody Magic’ coach training. This has opened up many new ways that I am able to help my clients. I’m now an Endorsed Mindbody Magic Coach as well as being a Certified Wayfinder Life Coach.
Through mindbody, manifestation and wayfinding tools I can help you to tune in with your body, feel and process your emotions, handle negative mind stories and tap into your inner wisdom.
Certified Wayfinder Life Coach
Endorsed Mindbody Magic Coach
Fully qualified experienced teacher.
Manifestation and Law of Attraction- Masters Member of Good Vibe University
Member of Evolve community with Carrie Contey PhD for three years – focus was conscious parenting, partnership and personhood.
Certified Organisational Specialist
Certified Angel Guide with Kyle Gray
Career coach for a top Washington based company.
Business Success coach for top US based coaching company.
Business trainings including Marie Forleo’s B School, Jenny Shih’s Making it Work online and Linda Bucher’s Confident Coach program.
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