Not perfect and perfect at the same time.



In November of last year I wrote this post about becoming a coach for mothers and then I started helping more coaches and writers. I got worried that if I was going to be a coach for mothers that I had to be a perfect mother and I am not, and I am not even sure there is such a thing.

When there are occasionally big tantrums on the way home on the school run due to tiredness, can I be a mum coach? The answer for me is yes.

There might be moments of perfection, but it’s just not possible all the time to be a perfect mother.

So I now realise that this is what we call in Martha Beck coaching ‘a limiting belief.’ Essentially this is a belief that makes you feel contracted and sad in your body.

I realise that those I coach actually need me not to be a perfect mother because if I was I would find it easy all the time and would not have had to do all the self-development and learning I have done on this. I wouldn’t be able to relate to you and what you struggle with and that would be a big shame.

My journey as a Martha Beck Certified coach, teacher, a mother and a wife who has moved nine times in fifteen years of marriage has been a huge one and I have learnt a lot.

Who am I not to share it?

On this quote feel free to substitute ‘God’ with something that reflects your personal beliefs, the sentiment of the quote will be the same.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”, Ch. 7, Section 3 (1992), p. 190.

So I’m here to help. email me at if you would like coaching to make this journey of motherhood a lot more fun.

So I’d love to hear from you. What are your biggest challenges as a mum? What would you like help with? Let me know in the comments below.