Where do you disqualify yourself?












I had a call with my coaching buddies on the ‘Making it Work Online’ class with Jenny Shih and one of them has an amazing business where she helps people, particularly those who work internationally and those who need help fitting a unique job or employment gap into their work history with their resumes.

We did a role play where I pretended to be a person with an I.T. background who had gone to work with a travelling circus for a few years and now wanted and needed to get back into I.T. In the coaching Anna helped me see what the relevance of my work in the travelling circus was to the I.T. job.

After the call I was on a dog walk, where often I think about this blog and what to talk to you about on it. I thought about how the travelling circus person could have thought it an impossibility that they could get back into I.T..

They could have thought that none of the two years with the travelling circus was worthwhile. They could have labelled it as a waste of time.

Our society is really good at helping us to draw attention to where we fall short. Ask any child who has brought home a report card with all As, bar one. The B is considered, pondered, mulled over like an ink spot on a white T-Shirt.

Suppose you are applying for a job or returning to work after the early years of mothering. You look to see where the opportunities are. You might be disqualifying yourself even in where you choose to look for those opportunities.

You might decide that the particular newspaper or site only has jobs that are out of your league and so choose not to look there for fear of being disappointed.

You might disqualify yourself when looking for a partner, thinking you are not good enough for another person, when you have no real way of knowing that.

You might disqualify yourself as a good mother, as you have some idea of what a good mother is that you are not in some way meeting.

You might be disqualifying your body from being seen as beautiful as you are measuring yourself up to some societal airbrushed image of what beauty is.

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Are you:

too late

too early

not educated enough

too highly educated

not from the right background

without the right connections

too old

too young

too fast

too slow

not good enough

too good for that

too well know

not well-known enough

too introvert

too extrovert

too busy

too undecided

too uncertain

too certain

not beautiful enough

too attractive / beautiful

too clever for that

not brainy enough for that

too far behind

too much ahead of the times

too poor

too rich

not creative enough

too dreamy and creative

Oh, and if you were not disqualifying yourself, what would you do?

Can you? Dare you? Will you?

One life…




Let me know in the comments where you notice that you disqualify yourself and what wonderful thing might happen if you didn’t. I’d love to know.